Introducing Pet Play in BDSM

The difference between a submissive and a pet

We are all special and have different needs than our Dominant. The animal play has to come from within you first. Not all submissives want to be a pet. They are different. Being submissive doesn’t make you an animal. Being a pet doesn’t necessarily make you a submissive.

Pets can be dominant over other pets

Pets serve another purpose – a submissive serving dinner with kitten ears and tail is a pretty display of affection; a pet kitten with ears, tail, collar and leash attached to the table, curled up on/under your feet won’t serve you dinner because kittens don’t have thumbs! We cannot transport dishes!

A submissive may or may not want obedience training; a pet will naturally need and require additional training; think about what this animal would naturally need and what would turn you both on potty training, fetching, hand gestures, verbal commands, restraint/cage training.

Although the lines are fine and each dynamic is different, a submissive is above all a human being; animals do NOT like to be treated like human beings, i.e. picking up objects, restricting access to furniture, walking on a leash, only making sounds appropriate to the animal.

How to find your pet

If the thought of being a pet makes your ears prick up and makes you smile inside, find out which animal speaks most familiarly to your soul. For me it was easy. I was given my first kitten when I was three years old. Of course, I’ve always been drawn to felines. Not just hairy ears or Halloween costumes. It went way beyond. Their body language, their ferocity, their incredible ability to survive; how adorably soft, cute and fluffy like kittens!

Find an animal that you think is the most appropriate for your personality. Experiment when you feel safe, maybe buy some rabbit or puppy ears. I love jewelry butt plugs, so butt plug tails were a perfect accessory for me! Paint your face and play with your wardrobe and makeup! Have fun with it, that’s what matters! While some pets are kids and others, like me, are obedient and eager to obey, all pets have one thing in common: we all want to be safe and protected, as well as to receive l. attention and affection from our owner.

Yes, being submissive certainly wins you these things; however, I need more than just putting on my master’s socks and shoes. I need more than a tug of war. I need to engage with my mistress in some high-quality moments where we use our imaginations in a common effort to get closer. Not all Dominants want a pet. Some Dominants want to be given all the attention they need at all times. Pets may be more necessary than a normal submissive. They need more attention, more rules, rituals, and rewards. Pets also require an extra effort on the part of Dominants.

Playing with animals is more satisfying and powerful for me because I lose my voice and my words, I lose myself as a kitten, my submissive duties are temporarily suspended because I can just play and be… me. For me, the animal game is more than just submission because it allows me to stop thinking about real life and even take care of my master because during the animal game he takes care of me.

It is through my actions and body language that I can show him how much I adore him, and he in turn coaches me and grossly rewards me. While some submissives want to be spanked because they’re a bad girl, a lot of animals I meet feel like it’s not right for us. I prefer to receive crass rewards, such as spanking, playing and fighting in the wild, hair pulling and slapping, for being a loyal and obedient animal. I love these games and would never want them used against me as punishment or discipline – especially as a joke. Roughly reward me for being your enthusiastic fuck kitten!

What kind of pet do you want to be?

Once you’ve found your spiritual pet, figure out what type of pet you want to be. The possibilities are limitless! To begin with, and in order not to confuse your Dominant, first determine – do you want to be a good or a bad pet? Submissive or dominant? What are you looking for in this interaction?

Much like a submissive, pets generally fall into one of two categories: good girl or brat. I cannot stress enough that in an open and healthy love dynamic, you and your Dominant can play whatever roles you want. By being punished by a sadist, I realized that I didn’t want my motivation to come from a place of fear in a highly toxic, non-sexual way.

My motivation is naturally to please and obey. I push my limits and surrender to the needs and orders of my owner knowing that I am safe. I love the challenge of not only learning my protocol but also proving to my master that I can respect it and earn the smile of satisfaction that every animal yearns to see and that hurts them. The better I act, the harsher the reward!

However, the game of pets has an infinite number of scenarios:

The great submarines use the animal game as a time to let go and be a bit cheesy because it’s not them, it’s their animal side, which is placed and removed for the game.

The kids use animal play as an excuse to be even more disobedient or sometimes even domineering over another animal.

Pets can enjoy being trained for the purpose of being shown – especially show ponies! They are amazing!

Other animals just want their voices and names removed so they can put on a mask or gag and connect with the animal in them to be released – puppies and some kittens love to go looking at their stuffed animals and eat special dishes in our crates.

You might have always wanted to wear a cork tail, and the thought of your Dominant training you to take it turns you on, so it becomes a ritual that you start playing with the animal.

I love my tiger costume and recommend all pets to get one! Putting on the hood, the belt, and the heels… to hide, not to speak, all this makes the mental transformation easier and more pleasant!

Sometimes after long, hard days when life was too hard, it was not about whether I could serve my Dominant well, but not to speak and to console myself for the weight of his ankles on my back knowing that I was safe and loved.

Take the time to explore the many different scenarios and imagine them as you touch yourself and see which one you react to the most. Take it slow and enjoy the process! Animal play is incredibly satisfying when the right steps are taken to ensure the safety and creativity of everyone involved. Dominants should remember that a pet is not a slave unless that is what they are looking for. Limits should be set before playing pets.

Over time, it will become easier to get comfortable with each other, but in the beginning, open and honest communication is essential.

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