Do you want to experience BDSM? Here is a little guide to introduce you to BDSM quietly, but surely!

1. Set the rules

First of all, it’s important to agree on what you each mean by BDSM, like when Christian makes Anastasia sign a contract to find out what she is ready to do and what she is not. ready to do. The idea here is to define the things that you really want to try and those that aren’t an option. It will take the stress out of you finding yourself doing something you don’t like.

Don’t forget to define a safe word, a word to say when you don’t like what the other is doing when you want to stop. It is better to choose a word out of context, like “potato” or “endgame”. A word related to sex could be confusing.

2. Create a conducive atmosphere

No need to turn your apartment into an SM dungeon to play Anastasia and Christian Gray. No need to have a dedicated room like Christian Gray either. BDSM can be practiced anywhere – except in public, of course. However, a small subdued atmosphere, embellished with rock music, which moves well, can help make you want to engage in some wild games. It’s up to you to see the atmosphere that tempts you the most for this practice.

3. Start quietly

BDSM doesn’t have to be whipping or heavy spanking with whips. These don’t have to be things that hurt. This could be just blindfolding his / her partner (or vice versa) and playing with his / her body or letting the other play with his / her body without seeing anything at all. You can also have fun taking turns tying yourself up with handcuffs, ribbons, or ropes so that you cannot move while the other one tortures the tied one with pleasure. The must? Pair the two: blindfolded and hands tied.

Another example of pleasant and gentle torture? Pass an ice cube over the other’s body, as Christian does with Anastasia in the Fifty Shades of Gray saga. In short, all this is to say that it is quite possible to torture the other without harming him physically. So even if you aren’t comfortable with spanking and whipping, you can have fun anyway!

4. Test to verify

At the start, in the Fifty Shades of Gray saga, we can’t say that Anastasia is very excited about all this BDSM delirium of Christian Gray. So, to convince her, he offers to test certain things. And the more she tries things, the more she learns to enjoy it. The idea, then, is to test everything that makes you want to see what you like the most or what hurts you more than anything else. A little spanking here, a whip to see, a whip to try, a nipple there.

You will only know if it makes you horny if you try it, so don’t hesitate! If you don’t like it, you’ll find out next time and you can use the safe word to say stop. And if you like it, you just have to enjoy it.

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